Sounds like you don’t seem to motivated for anything. It’s ok to start things and quit them, everyone does it and it doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you. But if you’re struggling to get motivated, maybe turn your attitude around. Instead of making excuses and thinking negatively on the whole motivation thing, start thinking positively. Don’t keep constantly thinking that you CAN’T get motivated and set yourself goals and rewards to help keep you focused and motivated to achieving these things you want. Give it a shot and see what happens. People go through lazy stages, it’s alright. The only problem is knowing when to get out of them and/or how to get out of them.. that is the hard part.

Ask the guy to be gentle if it’s your first time. Make sure you trust him. <3

Ok after reading all of that, it sounds to me that your issue with him is that he keeps being close with you and then distancing yourself? I understand how it feels as i’m in the same situation with the guy i’m into. The best way to fix this is to just talk to him about it, let him know that you don’t like it when he pulls away from you after things are going so well. And see if he will tell you WHY he keeps distancing himself sometimes. He may have a good reason for it, or he might not even realise his doing it. So the only thing i can think of is to talk to him about it. But if the problem still continues then as much as you love him, it’s probably best for yourself that you move on as you deserve to be treated so much better baby. You love him and that’s great, but it’s never an excuse to put up with being treated that way. <3

Look i’m not sure what you should do. You say you don’t want to go for treatment because of the embarassment but the way i see it, is that you should. This treatment will help you with your diagnosis of bi-polar and help you deal with it or whatever it supposed to do. I think it’s silly if you don’t do it because you are scared of peoples reactions. Be confident and brave. Your parents will not think you’re a disappointment as bi-polar isn’t your fault (from what I know). Talk to them and get some help. All the best babe <3

I have a mixed background, but i’m from Australia. May I ask why?

Age is not really an isssue in this matter. The point is, everyone is an individual and we all have our likes/dislikes and interests. Just because you don’t seem to be interested in what alot of other people you hang around are, does not mean there is anything wrong with you. As for the grades, you shouldn’t be disappointed or humiliated in yourself. It sounds to me like you’ve been putting alot of hard effort and work into studying and trying to prove, and if at the end of the day your results still aren’t perfect, all that matters is that you tried your best and this is the best you can achieve so you should be proud of yourself. If you still aren’t satisfied about the marks babe, then maybe go have a chat to your teachers and explain to them that you are studying and maybe ask for suggestions or other studying techniques and see if that changes anything? You’re right, you’re only fifteen and definately don’t need to be worrying too much about the future and your career choices. But just remember that it doesn’t matter about the money or about what others think of the career, all that matters is that you are happy and enjoy it. Because at the end of the day, you want to be happy and you want to be looking out for yourself and living your life for yourself and NO ONE ELSE. You’re allowed to dream and want things in life, not all of them may happen but it’s apart of living. So dream big and have goals you want to achieve and challenge yourself, but just remember to always make sure you’re happy baby. :)

Well i think that it doesn’t matter to him whether you and your ex hate each other, what matters is that you are still his bestfriends ex. And out for respect (i assume) he doesn’t want to go any further than friendship with you because of his bestfriend. I know it sucks, but it’s reality and you have to respect what this guy wants. If however you REALLY do like him and want to be with him that much, maybe talk to your ex about the situation, see how he feels about it and then maybe if his ok with it, he can convince this guy to have a shot with you. Make sense? Let me know how it goes babe. :)

I know you didn’t expect an answer, but I just have to say that even though people may have much worse problems than our own, or even though it seems like their life is harder, does NOT mean that you should ever hold back from talking about your own problems. I don’t think problems should be measured by how drastic they are to society as a whole. Everyone is allowed to have problems and it’s what effects their lives individually. Whether it seems to be something minor to you or not, it is still effecting you and it stills deserves as much respect and seriousness as any other problem that may be occuring for others.
I’m not sure if you were just venting or if you wanted me to respond to the rest of your message? If you do then please inbox me and let me know. I’d be more than happy to share my point of view on all this. :)
I’ll end this message by saying, trust me when i tell you that you are not the only person who feels this way. You are not alone. I promise beautiful. <3

Firstly I just want to say i’m very sorry for your loss and I know how hard it can be baby. A similar thing happened to me but in my situation he didn’t commit suicide, he died from a disease. Anyways, the point is there is no set thing you should do. I’m not going to sit here and tell you to cry or tell you to go talk to someone. I understand how difficult it is and how depressing your situation is. But it’s the way you feel, just let it all out. Cry. Scream. Get angry. Do what you like. Take as much time as you need to cope with this loss.
But i will tell you this.. I know you will get through it and things will be ok. I’m not going to lie though, this is a traggic life occurance and you’ll always feel saddened looking back or thinking back on what has happened. But you need to keep moving forward with YOUR life. You’re still alive and you still have so much to look forward to in life. Don’t get left behind because of traggic experiences that have happened to you.
You don’t need a shirt or an object of his to remember him by. You have the memories and to me, I think they are worth alot more than anything tangible. Remember all the good things about him and remember him as the amazing person you saw him to be. As for the depressed part, i’m worried about you. I know it’s extremely hard to ask for help or to open up to someone but I honestly think that will be the only way you will get through it. Don’t bottle up your emotions inside because it’s unhealthy. I’m so glad you came to me to open up. And just know i will ALWAYS be here to listen. I PROMISE! If you want, inbox me and I will be more than happy to give you my number to talk. I’m here for you to help you through this. <3

Awwww baby, firstly sorry about the breakup. If he said you can still be friends and isn’t exactly being a friend, then he’s not one to trust. Move on to bigger and better things. :)
